Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.

‘Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better.’ – Samuel Beckett


‘If at first you don’t succeed try try again!’ As a child we have this concept so deep in our veins that trying again isn’t a question but an obsession. Think about the time you first learned to ride a bike, how many times did you fall off? How many times did you try again? Uncountable! Or how about when you were first introduced to basketball, how many times did you throw the ball at the hoop before it went in? Uncountable! What about tying your shoes laces, memorising your home telephone number, getting cookies of the top shelf. How many times? Uncountable. What was it about us as children that made us such naturally determined beings. Simplicity is the answer. We didn’t clog our minds with numerous scenarios, possibilities, predictions and we didn’t dwell on the past. Just because it didn’t work yesterday had no relevance to today. The only thing in mind was the goal and so we tried again and again and again and again and again and then ‘Yeah, I did it, I did it! Look at me, mommy daddy, I did it!’

‘It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not live at all. In which case, you’ve failed by default.’ – J.K. Rowlings

As adults we complicate matter so much so that we build a strong enough fear of failure to disuade us from even trying. Have you notices when someone succeeds we ask questions like, at what age? How long did it take you? Was it your first attempt? Sometimes such questions can even lead us to feel ashamed of our achievement because it was not achieved within a certain parameter.

‘Ultimately, we all have to decide for ourselves what constitutes failure, but the world is quite eager to give you a set of criteria if you let it,’ – J.K. Rowlings

If you’re of healthy body and sound mind, there’s no reason to stop trying. The only failure is never having tried. Stop reasoning yourself out of even taking the first step, stop weighing up the pros and the cons, stop building up a case for why not to bother. So what if no one has ever done that before? So what if it might not work? So what if you’ve already tried? So what if you don’t have the required credentials, try to get them then try again. Just Keep Trying. Just Keep Going. Just Keep Swimming.

‘Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.’ – Dale Carnegie

We’ve all heard the saying ‘life is short’, but the truth is that life is long, so ask yourself, what else am I planning on spending all that time doing if not trying to realise my dreams?

‘The worst thing one can do it not to try, to be aware of what one wants and not give into it, to spend years in silent hurting, wondering if something could have materialized – and never knowing’ – David Viscott

Remember that its not just the success of your goal that is important, you learn much more in the time spent trying to reach your goal. See your time of trying as a journey and don’t forget to stop and take pictures along the way because at the end of the road you will want to look back and smile at how far you’ve come.


10 Best Ways to Boost Your Morning Motivation

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Don’t you just hate those early birds, that are always out, plus out later than you but turn up to work, college or training the next morning skipping with a huge smile spread across their cheery face, EVERY TIME! How is that possible? So vibrant and active first thing in the morning? As I’m that annoying happy bouncy morning person, I’m going to let you in on the secret. It’s not genetics or luck, it’s the application of a few simple lifestyle techniques that I’m going to share with you. The application of any one or few of these techniques will increase your motivation and in most cases general well-being.

1. Wake Up to the Sound of Music:

Why do so many of us use our mobile phone alarm, do we enjoy pain first thing in the morning. The mobile phone alarm gives zero motivation to get up, you will either press snooze or get up in a bad mood caused by being shocked out of your sleep by a painfully annoying ringtone. Music is the best way to wake up happily. The trick is to set a playlist to a device that has an alarm function, that way you can choose the songs you want to wake up to. If you don’t have such a device you can set an alarm on your computer, by using the windows media player guide to set a music alarm and if you have a Mac you can download itunes music alarm. Begin with gentle music to ease you out of your sleep calmly, then progressive with each song to more up beat tones. Trust me you’ll be dancing and sing through the front door.

Here are a few recommendations for great wake up music:

“Beautiful Day” by India Irie, positive lyrics with an upbeat rhythm
“Rise Up” by R. Kelly, this one is for when your feeling down and need an extra boost
“Get up Offa That Thing” by James Brown, its impossible not to want to sing and dance to this song
“Don’t Worry Be Happy” by Boddy McFerrin
“Kiss” by Prince
“If you like Pina Colada” by Rupert Holmes

My songs list is mainly of songs that are a little silly, they make me smile and act silly enough to forget that I’m actually getting ready for work. Be careful what you choose as music has a large emotional effect on the body and mind.

2. Rise and Shine:

Wake up the way that nature intended by rising with the sun. It’s a wonderful and gentle means of waking up that will give you a sense of life and vitality sure to give you the motivation to face another day. The sun rises slowly and progressive and if you allow it in, so will you. Dark rooms like a warm cave do not encourage to get out of bed. If you have difficultly sleeping unless the room is totally dark, so do not want to leave the curtains open, invest in a sun alarm, which is an alarm clock that imitates the sunrise.

3. Stretch and Scream:

I do this first thing in the morning a huge stretch and a scream. Don’t wake the neighbours but just exercise those vocal cords a little. Stretching the muscles is a great way to communicate to your body that your expecting activity. What’s the first thing a cat does when it wakes? Streeeeeetch! There are benefits to stretching in the morning such as relieving your body from any stiffness, uncurling from a position you’ve been in most of the night and activating your awareness. Personally I just stretch out like a star fish for a few seconds and that works for me but you can also consider pilates or yoga, if you have the available time.

4. Breakfast:

Food = energy, and not just energy for your body but also your brain, it’s that simple. Please don’t skip this point with a “Hmm, breakfast really isn’t for me”, just as your mother always told you, breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Studies have shown repeatedly that eating breakfast in the morning leads to better cognitive performance. For those who are going to say they don’t have time, here are 18 Quick Breakfast Recipes for Busy Mornings.

5. Cool Water:

If your used to scorching hot showers just a few degrees from removing skin, TURN DOWN THE HEAT. Cool water is a lot more refreshing and revitalizing than hot. If your feeling brave go all out with a cold shower, which has numerous health benefits such as reducing fatigue, detoxing the body and more. An extra tip to shower away tiredness is to use a zesty or mint shower gel as their intense tingly aromas are known to be revitalising, refreshing and uplifting.

6. Minimal Exercise:

As little as 5 push ups and 10 sit ups can make a great difference, a little activity gets your heart rate up and your body in motion and ready for action.  Or even dance to your playlist of morning music from point 1 as your getting ready. Whatever you want to do, but try to do a little something. I know your thinking “I can barely make it out of the bed let alone exercise”, but it’s well worth the additional benefits such as jump starting your metabolism and getting the brain in gear , see this list of 10 reasons to do exercise in the morning.

7. Morning Surfers:

For the morning surfers who just-have-to get a glimpse of the news first thing, remember that the news can be a little depressing so throw in a few positive sites to keep your spirits high. Here are a three suggestions to put a smile on your face or even make you laugh first thing in the morning:

CuteOverload – Funny and cute pictures of animals that will make you say “Awww”
ComedyCentral – For short clips of stand up comedy
Good News Network – World News on only positive events

8. Put your Goals in Writing:

Jot down your goals, whether they are for the week, for that year or your ultimate goals and have them close by to read every morning. There are numerous benefits to having your goals on paper, but I’ll cover that in another article. What’s important here is to review your goals each morning, this is a great motivational boost that will give you the sense that there is work to be done. It will set in your mind targets for the day and put a spring in your step. Keeping your goals in the back of your mind will keep you motivated throughout the day.

9. Colour Therapy:

Opening the wardrobe to black and grey is not motivating at all. Regardless of whether you have a corporate job or not, or whether it is winter or not, you can add a little colour to your wardrobe, even if its only a colourful scarf or underwear. Studies have proven that colours effect our mood and can be used to increase our well-being.

10. Fresh Air:

Sleeping in an enclosed room builds up a lot of carbon-dioxide and the air becomes stagnant.  A lack of oxygen to the brain causes fatigue and drowsiness, making it increasinlgy difficult to wake up in the morning. Fresh air revitalises the mind and the body, our lungs love to get in a load of clean fresh air. Your bedroom should be well ventiliated and if possible within the perameters of health and safety allow in fresh air from the outdoors all through the night to prevent the build up of bad air.

I’m sure that this guide will lead you to waking up each morning more motivated and ready to take on life. You don’t have to apply all the techniques mentioned, one or two combined will result in an increase of your morning motivation. If you have any other morning motivation tips your comments will be appreciated by myself and others who stumble across Positively Wonderful – Daily Motivation for Life

Thank you for taking the time to read this article, I wish you sweet dreams and a happy awakening.